I’m a dreamer. I’ve always been a dreamer. When I was young, I dreamed of dancing professionally, working in a corporate setting with an important title, starring/co-starring in a musical and being a teacher of some sort… which I had the blessing of experiencing all of them. But I also have dreams that have not yet come true, such a becoming a rock star, a film actress, an acupuncturist, and a public speaker at a big conference of some sort.
I realize that I may never experience hundreds of thousands of fans singing along to one of my songs during my world tour. I also may not walk the red carpet as I stop to pose for the photographers and be interviewed by correspondents from Entertainment Tonight before I make my way into the Academy Awards to take a seat next to my co-star. I do, however, believe that I can become an acupuncturist and a public speaker at a big conference. So why do I believe that the first two are probably not in my future but that the second two are? The difference is ACTION.
Fulfilling the dreams of becoming a rock star and a film actress would be pretty awesome; but honestly, I don’t think I would be willing to pour my time and energy into going after these things. (I do have an acting coach/mentor that I work with, but I act because I love it and not because I want to be famous. But back to the topic of this blog…) Although I haven’t done it yet, I do believe that when the time is right, I will go back to school to become an acupuncturist as well as doing the necessary research and apply to become a speaker at a big conference.
When you have a dream without intentions and actions, you will see years pass by with those things remaining as dreams. In the past decade, how many dreams did you start out with? How many of those have come true, and how many are still dreams? And of the ones that remain your dreams, are you taking actions to make those dreams a reality one day?
Dreams stop being dreams
when you make them a reality.
So practically speaking, how do you fulfill a dream? I’m not an expert at this, but here’s how I go about fulfilling my own dreams:
1. Write down the dream.
Literally. Write it down. When I don’t write down my dreams, they stay in my brain for a while, and then they go away. When I write them down, they begin to exist outside of your mind.
Example: “I want to be a published author.”
2. Come up with a plan.
2a) First, start with writing down big milestone steps.
Example: “I will begin writing my book on March 1st, finish by July 1st, have it edited by August 1st, have book cover designed by August 14th, submitted for print by August 31st and order books for my first book event by September 1st.”
2b) Next, fill in the action items and tasks within each milestones.
Example: “I will write for 2 hours at Panera Bread on Wednesdays and 3 hours at the library on Thursdays. I will reserve an AirBnB in Denton, TX to take a week-long sabbatical in June in order to focus and make significant progress in my writing. I will schedule a photo shoot with my models for the book in July. I will research book cover designs and decide on how I want the cover to look like. I will write the back cover content by August 14th. I will save up money to purchase enough copies of the book for my first book event in October.”
3. Start taking action!
Take what you wrote down in step 2 and do them!
As 2019 comes to a close, get ready for the new year and the new decade(!) with some dreams and goals by sticking to the plans you come up with, and continue to revisit the plan to make sure you are staying on target to complete the tasks necessary to fulfill your dreams without giving into distractions.